I can’t even start to let you know what number of occasions I hear, “Oh nicely, since they’re twins, you solely must do issues as soon as for 2 children, proper?” Or, “Properly, I’m positive you’ve them in the identical sports activities/extracurricular actions, in order that needs to be simpler proper?”
WRONG. At the very least in my family, my twin daughters are people, and we’ve got tried to deal with them as people from day one. And whereas sure, as infants, we had them on the identical schedule, we made positive they napped and ate on the similar time, we fed them the identical meals; nevertheless, they’re nonetheless two people. Having twins meant double of the whole lot. Two swings, two boppys, two high chairs, two car seats, and nicely, loads of occasions, two of the whole lot become 4 of the whole lot. So sure, I believed we’d be capable to get away with many two-for-ones, however boy was I unsuitable!
The very fact is that twins might be 100% completely different from one another. I do know, laborious to imagine, proper? 😉 However, not less than in our household, our 10-year-old fraternal ladies are like evening and day.
The Similarities and Variations of Twins
Our Twin Daughters are Very Totally different
They’re bodily completely different.
And for our household, I imply actually completely different. One is blonde; the opposite is brunette. One is sort of three inches taller and has all the time been longer since start. One has blue eyes, and the opposite has inexperienced eyes. One appears to be going by means of puberty first, whereas the opposite doesn’t appear phased. One could be very versatile (is a gymnast), and the opposite is just not. One is a singer and a dancer, and the opposite would by no means sing even should you paid her.
They’re emotionally completely different.
Whereas our twin daughters are being raised by the identical dad and mom, they’re each emotionally completely different in the identical family on the similar time. One could be very empathetic and is all the time frightened about what folks assume. The opposite has no clue and lives her greatest life. One continually analyzes the state of affairs, and the opposite can simply float. One is all the time making an attempt to make folks snort, and the opposite needs to ensure she is included and consists of everybody.
They like various things.
It’s true. I imply, as toddlers, for essentially the most half, my twin daughters all the time needed what one another had. However as soon as they grew older, they’ve developed their very own likes and dislikes. I really like this as a result of it tells me they’re turning into their very own individual and creating their very own sense of self.
For instance, one likes to eat and will eat all day if I let her. The opposite eats if she’s hungry. One loves carrots; the opposite loves cucumbers. One is into boys; the opposite couldn’t care much less. One likes to sleep in, and the opposite is up earlier than us on the weekends. One loves chocolate . . . wait, okay, they each love chocolate.
They don’t all the time costume the identical.
Though there are some days after they love to decorate the identical, most days, my ladies come downstairs in completely completely different outfits. I used to decorate them alike, however finally, they realized their very own likes and dislikes. Nevertheless, there are such a lot of moments after they find yourself carrying the identical factor with out even planning to!
They’re not in the identical extracurricular actions.
I do know laborious to imagine, nevertheless it’s true. After all, after they have been little, we had them check out all of the issues collectively. However over time, we slowly observed their strengths and made positive we listened to their wants and wishes when it got here to this. Sure, my life could be SO a lot simpler in the event that they have been in the identical sports activities and actions. Nevertheless, it could be very unfair to group them into one. For now, they’re each in dance. One is in gymnastics, and the opposite is in aggressive dance and coding. One sings, they usually each do piano. And sure, it’s exhausting as a result of there isn’t any older sibling right here, so each of their actions take the identical precedence on a regular basis.
They’ve the identical buddies.
We’ve got all the time saved our twin daughters in the identical class. Honestly, we did this initially as a result of it was simpler to take care of one classroom fairly than two. However as they received older, we made positive to ask them what they needed for themselves, and nicely, they’ve by no means needed to separate. Truthfully, most individuals assume this might not be a sensible choice. Nevertheless, every set of twins has a distinct dynamic. This works for them and us. And whereas they’ve the identical group of buddies, in addition they have buddies within the group to whom every is nearer. They’ve realized one another’s strengths in class and have helped one another loads when third and 4th-grade math has develop into too laborious for mother (sigh).
They’re greatest buddies.
However in all honesty, they’re. Our twin daughters might be wherever and have a great time. They’ve been this manner since they realized easy methods to play. This 12 months was the primary 12 months they haven’t shared a bed room, and boy, have been they unhappy. Whereas it appears to be going nice, they chat each evening, learn collectively in one another’s room and discover methods to be collectively till the minute they go to mattress. And like all siblings, they’ve arguments, however they’re uncommon and minimal in all honesty.
However They’re Additionally So Related!
Twins are all so completely different! However they will also be very comparable. Listed here are some quirky and enjoyable details about how my twin daughters are completely different and the identical:
- They nonetheless prefer to match.
- They bathe collectively (and may kill me for sharing this).
- My ladies stick up for one another if both their dad or I are upset with them.
- We take them on date nights, mother and twin, after which mother and different twin.
- They shared a room till they have been ten.
- They’ve been in the identical class since preschool.
- They have been born vaginally, half-hour aside.
- Normally, when one will get one thing or does one thing, the opposite has to as nicely.
- They don’t compete in class. As a substitute, they assist one another.
- They do argue about who has extra ice cream of their bowl.
- One began speaking loads whereas it took the opposite a while to catch up.
- The one who talked early on continues to be essentially the most vocal of the 2.
- One wants loads of dental work and the opposite doesn’t want a lot.
- One goes by means of puberty and the opposite hasn’t began.
- They’re each the perfect massive sisters to their little one-year-old sister.
Each set of twins/multiples is completely different. However what I’ve realized is that irrespective of how a lot you attempt to increase them the identical, with the identical morals, guidelines, and values, they’ll all the time develop up with their very own model of what their childhood seemed like. They may all the time develop as much as be people, to be their very own individual. However isn’t that the aim? Isn’t that the perfect factor a mother might ask for? I maintain my breath and hope that they’ll all the time proceed to be the perfect buddies they’re as we speak.